Overcoming Fear

Here I was staring at a blank sheet on a computer screen with no idea of what to write about. Despite the fact, I have only done 2 blog posts. Maybe it is early onset writer’s block or I’m just not as creative as I thought.

This was all running through my head as I suddenly had a huge eureka moment, it hit me all at once. I can write anything on this blog. All those thoughts which race through my head daily, the thoughts that keep me up at night and hold me down during the day. I hope that whoever is reading this article finds relevance to it and I really hope it helps you in some way.

I have one fear and one fear only, it is a fear which some may say is intangible. Others may call it “silly” because what I fear is inevitable and completely out of my control. It is something which is natural and it is part of the cycle of life. But, it is one thing which provides me with endless fretting and useless fearful thoughts. Death.

I say useless because that is exactly what thoughts of death are, any thought fuelled by fear in fact. They have no end game, you will achieve nothing from it if anything it will put you down and push you back. Death is something which cannot be stopped (at this moment in time), therefore any thoughts of it are pointless. Just like any fear, obsessing over them will only add fuel to the fire, to the point where it manifests into all areas of your life. Fear is a man’s most dangerous enemy because we ourselves create it, therefore it knows what makes us tick.

The only plausible way to deal with any continuing fear is to face it. As scary as it may seem, once it is done, it seems ridiculous that you ever feared it. For example, if you fear clowns (as I once did), go to the circus. If you fear spiders, hold the biggest one you can find in the palm of your hand. If you fear heights, keep climbing until you don’t want to come down. The small difference which a fear of death has is that no one can tell you that once it is faced, it will be okay. No one can tell you “dying is fine, once you do it” because once you die, you’re gone. But, I think at the heart of it all, that is what scares me most. The finality of it all, especially when I think of other people dying, for eternity they are gone. Soon enough, any memories of them will be gone too. So, what will be left? Nothing.

So, I hear you scream, how do you deal with the fear of death?! Acceptance, accept that the universe has been around for 14 billion years and humans have been around for millions of years. So in the grand scheme of things, none of us matter and all we can do is leave our mark and move on to whatever comes after this. The main thing is to enjoy every single second while you’re here so when you are making that journey to whatever is next, you can say you lived ON YOUR TERMS, you played the game how you wanted and you won.

P.S.

Just a little side note, writing this has really helped me with the acceptance which I was talking about. So try writing what you’re scared of or talking to someone about it, it makes whatever you’re scared of of a lot less scary.

Stay Safe,

Alan

What It’s All About

The Road Not Taken

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveller, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less travelled by,

And that has made all the difference.

By Robert Frost

 

“That has made all the difference”, one of my favourite lines of poetry ever written. Ever since the day I heard it 3 years ago, It has remained embedded deep within my consciousness. It affects many of my decisions and therefore results.

 

This poem, those last two lines are the main influence of this blog. They are the foundations on which this blog is to be built upon, the manifesto of the blog if you may. I plan to share how this metaphorical choice is not just a poetic work of fiction. It is a very real option for all of us. It is a viable alternative to the rigid socially accepted path which we are told to follow. I believe that many people still don’t realise that there is a choice.

That’s why I am here. To hopefully show that you do not have to simply follow the path which society maps out for you, that there are alternatives if you wish to take a risk and become a maverick.

At all times keep in mind, that this personal journey which I am taking you on is very real and live. It is not my success story, it is not even story. It is simply regular updates and tips which I will pick up along the way, so that anyone who wishes to undertake a similar journey to mine has a slightly easier ride.

But of course, this is just my journey. This is not a one for all path, it is different for all of us. One person’s experience will be completely different to another persons and vice versa. Therefore, I am simply sharing my experience of taking “the path less travelled” and one day I will, with any luck, I will share “the difference” it made.

To give you a small bit of context. I am a 17-year-old, from Ireland. I am in my final year of secondary school (high school etc.). I recently quit a part-time job which I had been holding down for 20 months. I run 2 mini-business’s (which I will discuss in more detail in the future). Most importantly, I despise social norms and the current path which is set out for our generation (School->college->job->Retirement). Sure it may work for the majority of people, but It doesn’t work for me.

So, if you like the sound of any that, then stay tuned. I will be posting(hopefully!) every Monday, Wednesday and Saturday.

Thanks for your time and STAY TUNED,

Alan